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She says that she doesn't feel the connection that she should. She says that she really likes me and being around me, but that's it. She also really wants to continue seeing me, as a friend. I’m attracted to personality, so that’s usually not a problem. But for someone I’m looking at as a potential partner, there’s that elusive “something” that you either have or you don’t. I’ve only  · As someone navigating the world with anxiety, I find online dating challenging and stressful at the very best of times. The prospect of video-calling someone I scarcely know AdFind Your Special Someone Online. Choose the Right Dating Site & Start Now! Find Out Which Dating Sites are Easiest to Use & Most Effective. Find a Date Now! ... read more

I was uncomfortable at first because I felt we were moving a little too fast. I never said anything though and there is my problem. I didn't feel a real connection so to speak for a few weeks, but she seemed to enjoy being with me and I wanted to give it time to see if anything sparked. I didn't want to hurt her either. One issue we had is that she felt like I wasn't opening up, and I agree and regret that. I think I was like that because I didn't feel the connection.

We decided to meet one night while at work and I was pretty sure one of us was going to end it. To my surprise we talked and I had a great time, and actually started to feel like we now had a connection. I started opening up more and every time we saw each other I felt better and better about our relationship. We began sleeping at each others houses regular and for the first time in my life, I felt like I was in a happy relationship that was going well.

It became even more apparent for me that I really liked being with her when I went back to my hometown for a few days and appreciated how good I had it with her. I texted her that I missed her and that I wanted to see her when I got back so I could kiss her. She said she missed me too. Well I got back, excited to see her again and pick up where we left off. For three days she was unable to see me, for legitimate reasons.

Wednesday I asked if she could come see me at work and she said yes. I asked how she was doing, and she said we would talk about it when we saw each other. I thought something was wrong, but that was it. We met up and talked for half an hour and all my anxiety went away. I felt like things were back to how I left them and all I could think about was giving her a kiss before I had to get back to work. Then she tells me she has been meaning to talk with me and drops the bomb that she no longer wants a relationship.

She says that she doesn't feel the connection that she should. She says that she really likes me and being around me, but that's it. She also really wants to continue seeing me, as a friend.

She wants to talk about that, but I am in no state. I need to get back to work and I am in shock, my heart in my stomach. I tell her that I have a lot going on right now and I need to fully process what just happened. I tell her we can discuss that soon, but I need some time to think. She obviously doesn't want to hurt me, but it really hurts anyway. I thought about it for a few hours and texted her that we can talk Sunday, but I need time to be alone and think.

I have decided to tell her that I understand how she feels, and that if she doesn't feel a connection, then I understand not wanting to be with me.

I am going to explain that I do care for her a lot, but I am realistic enough to know it can't work if she doesn't feel like that about me. I am still on the fence about being friends.

On the one hand I am afraid that I will feel like this longer or again if I maintain contact, but in the other, I really like her, obviously, and think that still being in each others lives is preferable to hiding from the possibility of feeling badly. After all, this wasn't a case of us fighting or not getting along. I am still shocked by it all, and I know it will get better, but I just feel physically and emotionally drained. I feel you Evan You know I think it's ok to be friends, however, I think you need to limit the time you spend with her for a while I mean at the moment it seems like you have feelings for her and they aren't going to disappear overnight so you can end it on good terms but don't hang out waaaay too much with her until you've emotionally ready which can take time..

a month.. two months or more depending on how fast you get over people I wish you all the best It's sad when the person you really care about just leaves you hangin' good luck it too shall pass Re: staying friends with her - No.

She broke up with you. She should have the common decency to stay the hell out of your life while you are still dealing with the breakup. Maybe someday when you care less, but until you do, she doesn't get to see you as a friend while she is looking for someone else.

Otherwise you will just drag out the pain and set yourself up for being rejected again when she starts dating someone else. Just don't contact her until you know you are over this.

You are completely entitled to deal with the end of the relationship in private. For the future, it just seemed to me that your relationship was way too much familiarity, way too fast.

That puts a lot of pressure on a budding relationship. Go on real dates instead of just hanging out at each other's houses. Take your time having sex and take your time opening up. Do you think you need to understand a bit more about what the 'connection' means? Sometimes it is code for you are not the man I initially thought you were that is saying something about you not being you , or I am not physically attracted to you, or I have met someone else.

I think the issue many be that you are not processing the end, cos you dont understand it.. Seek to understand.. But be careful, you may never get a proper ending.. I tend to believe for most of us, in most relationships, and for most of the emotional time, that the gradual route, when delivered appropriately well, is the least disruptive. To see a person at arms length in the context of a genuine friendship can be easier than apparent total rejection, much easier.

Sometimes a route to the TRUTH is through the careful deliberation of what one believes that the truth should be. Well, I went ahead and via text message stated that I would need some time, but I think eventually we can be friends. I am going to go ahead and cut off contact from my end of things and if she wants to speak with me, she has my number and knows where I live. I am not going to be the guy who can't get past it. Evan, if she is this rocky in love she is in all probability the same in friendship.

Neither true love nor true friendship ends quickly. This the same even should you meet someone else, which I believe she has. Rocky in love, often so in any kind of actually genuine meaningful friendship. I used the term "rocky" to cover the predisposition of falling in and out of relationships. It is often to be discovered where there is an over abundance of self- love. Love, self-love, and the need of being loved, can play the same tune for most of the time. Why do I still feel like this happened yesterday?

I had a talk with a friend, which helped a lot the day after this happened, but that's about the only positive. Ask her about her family, her grandparents and any nice stories she has. Hopefully, you will get to share yours as well. This can potentially form that emotional connection between you both and give you some common ground to move forward with.

This could also pop-up within any conversation you have about hobbies and interests. One thing which every lady loves is when they have a man who listens to them and wants to help take care of them.

A key to this is to make her feel comfortable talking about things that may not online be difficult to talk about but are also personal or private. From friendships and past relationships to jobs and childhood, there are potential emotional hooks in just about every part of our personalities.

So, when online dating, show her empathy and listen to things she tells you, be there when she needs support and be a great person to confide in. AsianSingles2Day Blog.

So I am pretty much a beginner in the dating world. I spent most of my time with school and finding a job, and now that I am set with that, at 26, I began that search for something more. Working nights made it hard to meet people, so I decided to use online dating to make connections to little effect. However in November I started talking with my now ex- girlfriend. It was fun and interesting and she gave me her number after a few days and we set up a date shortly after.

We went on a few dates, mainly staying at each others houses, and she began to get intimate with me. I was uncomfortable at first because I felt we were moving a little too fast. I never said anything though and there is my problem.

I didn't feel a real connection so to speak for a few weeks, but she seemed to enjoy being with me and I wanted to give it time to see if anything sparked. I didn't want to hurt her either. One issue we had is that she felt like I wasn't opening up, and I agree and regret that. I think I was like that because I didn't feel the connection. We decided to meet one night while at work and I was pretty sure one of us was going to end it.

To my surprise we talked and I had a great time, and actually started to feel like we now had a connection. I started opening up more and every time we saw each other I felt better and better about our relationship. We began sleeping at each others houses regular and for the first time in my life, I felt like I was in a happy relationship that was going well.

It became even more apparent for me that I really liked being with her when I went back to my hometown for a few days and appreciated how good I had it with her.

I texted her that I missed her and that I wanted to see her when I got back so I could kiss her. She said she missed me too. Well I got back, excited to see her again and pick up where we left off. For three days she was unable to see me, for legitimate reasons. Wednesday I asked if she could come see me at work and she said yes.

I asked how she was doing, and she said we would talk about it when we saw each other. I thought something was wrong, but that was it. We met up and talked for half an hour and all my anxiety went away. I felt like things were back to how I left them and all I could think about was giving her a kiss before I had to get back to work.

Then she tells me she has been meaning to talk with me and drops the bomb that she no longer wants a relationship. She says that she doesn't feel the connection that she should. She says that she really likes me and being around me, but that's it. She also really wants to continue seeing me, as a friend. She wants to talk about that, but I am in no state. I need to get back to work and I am in shock, my heart in my stomach. I tell her that I have a lot going on right now and I need to fully process what just happened.

I tell her we can discuss that soon, but I need some time to think. She obviously doesn't want to hurt me, but it really hurts anyway. I thought about it for a few hours and texted her that we can talk Sunday, but I need time to be alone and think.

I have decided to tell her that I understand how she feels, and that if she doesn't feel a connection, then I understand not wanting to be with me. I am going to explain that I do care for her a lot, but I am realistic enough to know it can't work if she doesn't feel like that about me. I am still on the fence about being friends. On the one hand I am afraid that I will feel like this longer or again if I maintain contact, but in the other, I really like her, obviously, and think that still being in each others lives is preferable to hiding from the possibility of feeling badly.

After all, this wasn't a case of us fighting or not getting along. I am still shocked by it all, and I know it will get better, but I just feel physically and emotionally drained. I feel you Evan You know I think it's ok to be friends, however, I think you need to limit the time you spend with her for a while I mean at the moment it seems like you have feelings for her and they aren't going to disappear overnight so you can end it on good terms but don't hang out waaaay too much with her until you've emotionally ready which can take time..

a month.. two months or more depending on how fast you get over people I wish you all the best It's sad when the person you really care about just leaves you hangin' good luck it too shall pass Re: staying friends with her - No.

She broke up with you. She should have the common decency to stay the hell out of your life while you are still dealing with the breakup. Maybe someday when you care less, but until you do, she doesn't get to see you as a friend while she is looking for someone else. Otherwise you will just drag out the pain and set yourself up for being rejected again when she starts dating someone else.

Just don't contact her until you know you are over this. You are completely entitled to deal with the end of the relationship in private. For the future, it just seemed to me that your relationship was way too much familiarity, way too fast. That puts a lot of pressure on a budding relationship. Go on real dates instead of just hanging out at each other's houses. Take your time having sex and take your time opening up. Do you think you need to understand a bit more about what the 'connection' means?

Sometimes it is code for you are not the man I initially thought you were that is saying something about you not being you , or I am not physically attracted to you, or I have met someone else.

I think the issue many be that you are not processing the end, cos you dont understand it.. Seek to understand.. But be careful, you may never get a proper ending.. I tend to believe for most of us, in most relationships, and for most of the emotional time, that the gradual route, when delivered appropriately well, is the least disruptive.

To see a person at arms length in the context of a genuine friendship can be easier than apparent total rejection, much easier. Sometimes a route to the TRUTH is through the careful deliberation of what one believes that the truth should be. Well, I went ahead and via text message stated that I would need some time, but I think eventually we can be friends. I am going to go ahead and cut off contact from my end of things and if she wants to speak with me, she has my number and knows where I live.

I am not going to be the guy who can't get past it. Evan, if she is this rocky in love she is in all probability the same in friendship. Neither true love nor true friendship ends quickly. This the same even should you meet someone else, which I believe she has. Rocky in love, often so in any kind of actually genuine meaningful friendship. I used the term "rocky" to cover the predisposition of falling in and out of relationships.

It is often to be discovered where there is an over abundance of self- love. Love, self-love, and the need of being loved, can play the same tune for most of the time. Why do I still feel like this happened yesterday? I had a talk with a friend, which helped a lot the day after this happened, but that's about the only positive. My appetite is absolutely destroyed. I know I am hungry, but when I try to eat, I eat a little and feel like I can't take another bite. I feel, at times like it's getting better, only to feel just as bad as ever soon after.

Hanging out with friends and staying active only works for a short time. I went and started shoveling snow, just to keep my mind off it and found that it was all I could think about. In my stupidity I went out for drinks for a friends birthday, only to find my emotional state worse at the end of the night. I have found some solace in watching standup comedy, but cringe when relationship jokes come out.

I finally called my mother to tell her the news that it was over, but all I could bring myself to do was tell her the fact and I began to tear up a full grown adult man, almost crying in front of his mother I have dealt with deaths and job rejection better than I am dealing with this.

I have never suffered depression, but this is what I imagine it feels like. What the hell is wrong with me. I don't want to talk about it anymore, because I don't want my friends to think I am unable to get over it, but its literally the only thing that helps put it in perspective. I know it is going to get better, but I have a Knott in my stomach and I have never felt so utterly alone in my life.

I understand your feeling, because i am going through a very similiar break up. Like you I didn't start dating until I finished up my doctorate degree. So I am inexperienced as well.

Making an emotional connection in online dating,

I’m attracted to personality, so that’s usually not a problem. But for someone I’m looking at as a potential partner, there’s that elusive “something” that you either have or you don’t. I’ve only  · As someone navigating the world with anxiety, I find online dating challenging and stressful at the very best of times. The prospect of video-calling someone I scarcely know AdFind Your Special Someone Online. Choose the Right Dating Site & Start Now! Find Out Which Dating Sites are Easiest to Use & Most Effective. Find a Date Now! She says that she doesn't feel the connection that she should. She says that she really likes me and being around me, but that's it. She also really wants to continue seeing me, as a friend. ... read more

a month.. Seek to understand.. It's sad when the person you really care about just leaves you hangin' Stay strong. Evan, if she is this rocky in love she is in all probability the same in friendship. I wish you all the best

It became even more apparent for me that I really liked being with her when I went back to my dont feel connection in online dating for a few days and appreciated how good I had it with her. My girlfriend doesn't feel the spark anymore. I have decided to tell her that I understand how she feels, and that if she doesn't feel a connection, then I understand not wanting to be with me. I know it is going to get better, but I have a Knott in my stomach and I have never felt so utterly alone in my life. Still more again should you manage to convince yourself that personal perfection is your ultimate goal, because by this route comes the ultimate healthy love of self.

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